The 3-Hour Midlife Crisis

Personal Development – What’s Stopping Us?

We all have dreams and goals and fantasies. It is a central component of being alive. These are the raw materials for our re-invention … our “personal development”. And yet most of us keep these visions tucked away, sleeping on the old Bucket List. Why is that?

Why is it that we cling to a dream … something we have always wanted to do or be or have … yet so many of us take no action on that dream? It simply doesn’t make sense when you think about it. There appears to be nothing standing in anyone’s way. Or is there?

I have helped hundreds of people pick a dream, dust it off and start living it. In this work I have found four main blocks to our personal development.

They aren’t real, but they sure feel like it. They stand in the way of living your dreams for most people just as effectively as a solid brick wall. I call them …

The Four Dream Killers of the Apocalypse

Here they are:
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How to change your life … that’s the big question when we are faced with the F-Word? Its the number one Re-Invention Killer for all of us for sure. What is this word?

HINT: More dreams have died in the grasp of this emotional “F” bomb than from any other cause … bar none. It comes up suddenly, predictably and stops us dead in our tracks time after time.

You know the answer …

FEAR

If Fear stops you, does that mean you’re “chicken” or lack the willpower for your own Re-Invention? Popular culture would say yes. I will respond with an emphatic “NO”.

The antidote for Fear is not courage unless you are on the battlefield. Thank heavens that is not where you learn how to change your life. There are simple tools that will help you reach new goals and literally reinvent yourself – at any age – despite the universal presence of Fear.

Before I show you these Fear Bypass methods it is important to know why this powerful emotion comes up in the first place. If Fear is the enemy, the more we understand about its origins the better.

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Hey, that's me!

All Personal Development starts with Being Willing to be a Bozo. In fact, learning any new skill (or reaching any new goal) starts with realizing just how clueless you are – no red wig, painted on smile or big shoes needed.

The easiest example of this is to take a quick look at the #1 fear most people quote in surveys … That’s right … Public Speaking.

Let’s say you want to become a good public speaker. Here’s what stops most people dead in their tracks. We aren’t actually afraid of Speaking in Public. Here’s what we are all afraid of …

We are afraid of Looking and sounding like a Complete Idiot in front of a whole room full of people. In short … Being a BOZO.

AND even more important is to realize this …

EVERY Great Speaker you have every admired …
Looked and Sounded Like Bozo the Clown their first 20 times on the stage.
— Every Single One –

What they Did NOT Do is Let That Stop Them.

They all felt the BOZO and kept going. That single defining characteristic is what lead to their ultimate success … they Did Not Quit. This is true for Any Person who is good at Any Activity. Behind all success is a person who was willing to “fake it ’til you make it” long enough to get through the “clown phase”.

Being a Bozo is a stage in Greatness – one that EVERYONE must pass through

Where am I going here?

I would like to share the “Conscious Competence Learning Model”, commonly attributed to Gordon Training International and Noel Burch. Here is a way of understanding personal development – how we learn, grow and live our dreams -  you may not have heard of before. And here’s my intention.

I want to help you Embrace Your Bozo-ness …
because that’s the only way to change your life! Continue reading →